Lovey Dovey Tuesday Tips: How to Make Unwanted Girls Stop Wanting You

Girls, Women, the female gender species are VERY persistent when it comes to love. Even when they say "I don't care anymore", their actions speaks the opposite. Even when they have decided to forget, all they really do is remember and reminisce. Basically, when it comes to the matters of heart, we're really stubborn.

girls are just too stubborn. source

Last time, I wrote about "How to Not Make Unwanted Girls Fall For You" but what if she has already fallen big time for you? What if she keeps on pestering you and hoping for you even when you have already clearly say "NO" to her? So this time, I'm gonna give you some tips on how to make them stop hoping for you. So here's "How to Make Unwanted Girls Stop Wanting You".

NOTE: These tips are for those who have difficulty being absolutely mean to someone. It will hurt her, but at least it won't scar for life.


#1 - Ignore her
Try to ignore her calls as much as you can. Don't reply to her messages. If you see her somewhere, don't go and say Hi to her. If she comes and say hi to you, find a reason to leave. Always create an excuse to excuse yourself. Even better, make it obvious. That way she might get the hint that she is un-welcomed.

#2 - Get a girl to answer your phone
If you just don't have anymore heart to ignore her calls, ask a girl to answer your phone for you. Tell her it's your friend. Or even better, your girlfriend (if you have the guts/heart to do so). During conversation, you can even ask the girl-friend to interrupt you - like asking you to be quick, etc. Cut the conversation short.

#3 - Talk about other girls with her.
If you can't avoid talking to her, tell her stories about that girl you have had your eyes on. Or some girl that you adore so much, or find special about. Make sure to sound sincere and even better excited when telling her the stories. Do it each time you talk with her. If you are chatting face to-face with her, point out some hot chick that passes by and tell her u find that chick hot/beautiful.

#4 - Bring a friend
When you have to meet her for whatever reason, always bring a friend along. If it's a guy, it's fine, if it's a girl, even better. Don't ask for permission, just bring. Family members doesn't count. It must be a friend. For more effect, bring a friend she doesn't know. If you bring a family member (siblings, cousin, etc) She might mistook it as a recognition instead - you bringing your closest family member to introduce to her.

#5 - Pay more attention to other girls
In a crowd (like reunion, gathering etc) she would probably try to single you out by standing/sitting close to you and try to engage conversations with you. If this happen, give your attention to some other girl *CAUTION make sure the other girl knows what you are doing or you might give her the wrong idea. If you didn't have time to warn other girl-friend, then move about and meet a lot of different girls, don't single them out. Or you can move about with a guy friend - it's safer.

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#6 - Make yourself scarce
Don't be available to her. Make it difficult for her to see you or hear from you. Don't go to places you know she frequent. If you want to help her to get over you, you have to allow her some time away. The best way to forget someone is to actually not see them for awhile. So, try not to make it difficult for her.

#7 - Lie (from wiki-how)
I personally don't like people who lie. But in this case, it might help you. Lie to her, even better if she knows it. Like - "sorry, I have to help my mom" but then you 'accidentally' met her while you're meeting up with friends (or other girls). It would make you look bad, but it will also become a turn off for her. *Caution this can only be effective if you don't have mutual good friends. It's gonna be bad if the word spreads around and it destroy your chances with other girls.

#8 - Be ruthlessly honest
"You're annoying me, stop." or "I don't like you" or "You're ugly". If you think that's the truth, just tell her that. Don't be reserved and try to take care of her. (I like this more than #7.) Instead of lying, be extremely honest that it might make her feel hurt. Point out the things you don't like.

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#9 - Don't give her mix signal
Means don't be kind at one time and cruel the other. Be consistent. Don't try to lessen the effect by being nice. If u give her mixed signal, she'll choose to ignore the negative ones and only focus on the positive. You'll never get her off you that way - ever.

#10 - Say "I don't like you" rather than "I'm Not Ready"
If she's pressuring for a relationship, don't try to dodge it by saying "I'm not ready". When you put it that way, what she will understand (or hope) is that when you are ready, you will choose her - which rarely is the case. Better to straight out say "I don't like you" or "I have no feelings for you".

Too much? But that's the reality~

#11 - Get a girlfriend
Get a steady real girlfriend for yourself. Not just the one that you casually dating. If you have to, introduce this girlfriend to her. As long as you're single, and as long as you're just "mingling" around, she'll assume you're "open for public" and thinks she still has a chance. So, get yourself a girlfriend!!

I know, some of my suggestions might sound a bit cruel and ruthless to you. But, trust me. It's better this way. By being kind to her you are actually being even more cruel towards her. If you are being kind to her because you didn't want to lose a friend, then you are not being a friend at all. You are just selfish. Why? because all u think is about yourself, how u don't want to lose a friend, or how u don't want to be seen as the bad/cruel guy. You're not thinking what's the best for her. By being kind, you are simply stringing her along. She won't see anyone else but you, she won't open her heart to others. She'll keep on comparing other guys with you - and you'll win every time. In other words, you don't want her, but you still keep a leash on her. She won't be able to move on - That's the truth.

It's better to be ruthless~ Source

How do I know this? First and foremost, as bratty as I am, I'm still a girl. Second, I was in that "unwanted girls" shoe. Sometimes, it felt like I just wanted to let myself be stringed along by that guy because I liked it. But, then I started to hate myself - and that is where I drew the line. I can't be by someone's side when I hate myself this much. I have to start liking myself back, and in order to do that, I had to cut the strings. I was lucky cause during that time, the guy behaved in a way that made it easy for me - (some of the things I mentioned above). It was hard, it was hurtful, it felt cruel and at first it felt lonely, but as I gradually drifted away from him, I felt I was able to like myself again, I was happier, and I realized other things I wanted in life - other things I might not be able to achieve if I were to end up with him. So I didn't hate him. In fact I was thankful and grateful towards him. He was a good friend, and still is. We are still friends now, and perhaps will forever be.

Oh yeah, if you guys are trying to woo a girl, those up there are an ABSOLUTE NO-NO. If you do that, you can say goodbye to your chances with her.

That's all the tips I have for now. Hope it helps u. Take care~
The Brat,









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Lovey Dovey Tuesday Tips: How to not make unwanted girls fall for you

Kinda weird that I suddenly pop out such topic huh? Yeah I felt weird too - so it's just perfect for my weird self. lols.

Anyway, what prompted me to write this was a question from a good guy-friend of mine. You see, he's not exactly a ladies man (well I wouldn't classify him as one) but he often finds himself in a situation where girls just couldn't help but fall for him. It's not a bad thing, really. But when you don't want that to happen, it is just kinda irritating and a bit of a nuisance. 

He told me that some of his friend told him that the way he treated girls are just a little bit "too much". He's a little too attentive, a little too helpful and well, u get the picture. So he asked me, "How do I not be that?" He says how can he not help when a friend asks for it? What he says makes total sense to me at that time, and I couldn't give him any helpful answer then since I don't really know how exactly he treat girls. But now, after getting to know him a bit more, and some other guys I was lucky (or unlucky) enough to cross path with, I can finally tell him and the rest of you guys "How to NOT make unwanted girls fall for you"

1st - DO NOT stare

do not stare, do not gaze, do not look at her intently. Girls always know when there's a guy looking at her, even without her looking. So when you are staring at her, trust me, she'll know. And she will think that you might be AT LEAST a weee bit interested in her. 

2nd - DO NOT compliment her

don't tell her she looks pretty, don't say she's cute or something she did is cute, don't say she's sweet, or great or wonderful. Just don't praise her. When you do, it makes her feel special, and that gives an impression that you see her as special. 

3rd - DO NOT notice the little things

Little things such as, new haircut, new dress, new shoes, new hair pin or new perfume DON'T EVER mention them even when you notice it. For a girl, if you notice the little things, means you are looking, means you care..

4th - DO NOT look interested

Don't put on a face that looks like you are interested in what she was saying. When you seemed like you are listening to her, she'll keep on talking, and when you keep on listening, she'll start to think that you care. 

5th - DO NOT sacrifice your plans for her

If you already have a prearranged plan, don't cancel it for her. Tell her up front that you had already have something else planned and that you couldn't make it. 

6th - DO NOT share personal stories or secret

Try to keep conversations on a surface level. Don't share your secret or personal details with her. and especially, DO NOT confide your problems to her. The moment you do, she'll be either annoyed or hooked. If she's interested in you, she'll be hooked. If she's not, she'll be annoyed. Wanna try and take the risk? 

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7th - DO NOT listen to her too much

Don't listen to her telling you how good or bad her day was, don't listen to her talking about her problems, don't listen to her talking about her boy problems. Seriously, she has girl-friends for that. If she search you instead, what do you think it is for? MAYBE she just wants a guy's insight, so, you can sometimes listen to her. But not always, NEVER always. 

8th - DO NOT be too much of a gentleman.

Don't hold the door for her, don't carry everything for her, don't pick food for her, don't pay for her food, don't pick her up unless u REALLY have to. Just don't do it. We're in 2011 and going forward now, girls can do all that by herself, and as a friend, no one would care if you don't do that for her. However, when you do, it will look special. 

9th - DO NOT remember too much

Don't remember every other special day, don't remember the little things she said or did, don't remember what she wore don't remember where you met and what you talked about and if you can't help it, then DON'T mention it to her. Keep it to yourself. 

10th - DO NOT show off too much.

If you got talent, like playing guitar or other musical instruments, or if you're good at soccer, or if you can do tripple somersoult or air flare, try not to show it off PERSONALLY just for her. Girls tend to fall for guys with skills. Seriously, it is kinda hard to resist. hehe

11th - DO NOT use fond nicknames

Dear, sweetie, sayang, darling, love, honey and the like are strict NO-NO. Eventhough you meant nothing or you think it meant nothing, just don't use it to address her. PLEASE. I dunno how many girls I've known who got tripped by these words. I almost wished it didn't exist (almost, okay!!)

12th - DO NOT go through too much trouble.

It's okay if you go through trouble for a friend once in a while, but make it LESS THAN OFTEN. If it's too much trouble, sometimes, you just got to learn to turn her down. Girls tend to see guys who go through trouble for her as a sure sign of attraction. So BE CAREFUL.

13th - DO NOT give or share with her anything

Key chain, momentos, birthday present, congrats present, thank you present. In special events, words will be enough. Do NOT share your food, your drinks, your things, if you don't really have too. If you are trying to save or on a diet, make sure she realize the fact.

14th - DO NOT joke about relationship

Don't even in jokes mention things like having her as gf, or saying she's special girl to u, or anything that sounds like you are willing to have a relationship with her. Seriously, if you are not at all interested, it is like you are signing off your death penalty yourselves. At some point or another, it would cross her mind that you are giving her a hint. So guys, don't joke about it, please.

15th - DO NOT care too much

Is she ok? Is she sick? Is she sad? Why does she look so down? Have she eaten? Does she need a drink? Try not to bother yourself with those questions. Try to be less attentive, try to not care too much about her well being. Believe me, it's easier.

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16th - DO NOT always picking fights.
What's wrong with fights? It's a classic telltale that a guy likes you when they purposely constantly pick fights with you. Now, I know this isn't true, that it is just another myth that romance novel and comics conjure up (I have friends who pick fights because they genuinely can't stand the girl). But not all girls know this. Or even if they already suspected it, their friends who don't know the situation might persuade them differently. So try to avoid picking fights. Indifference is a MUCH better choice.

Okay, my brain is about to burst from too much thinking. I have squeezed out 16 NOT TO DOs for you guys. These are my suggestions. You better not do this things unless you are consciously flirting with a girl. 

If you notice, the DO NOT can easily be DO if you want to try to woo a girl. And it can also indicate if you are attracted to a girl at some level. If you are doing these things for a particular girl eventhough you didn't plan on flirting with her, try to think again the reasons. You might have actually fallen for her and didn't realize it!!! 

BUT if you are treating most girls this way, PLEASE try to stop. It will be headache for your girl, AND you would leave a lot of broken hearts who curse you endlessly along the way. 

It might look harmless, but it is the start of a disaster.

Brat signing off, 

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Strolling in Manhattan: Broadway Recital Series

Dear Readers (if anyone by chance read this),
It is with great pleasure that I, Nana the Brat invite you to the first, or many to come, Broadway Recital Series at Broadway Academy!!

Date: 8 July 2012, Sunday 

Time: 7.30pm – 8.30pm 

Venue: Studio 1, Broadway Academy (M) Sdn. Bhd, No 66-2 & 66-M, Jalan PJU 5/21, Pusat Perdagangan Kota Damansara, 47810 Petaling Jaya, Selangor. 

Entrance fee: Free for those who register. 

Event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/262600817178558/

This recital will feature upcoming and fresh new talents who will showcase their ability in a one-hour show singing various Broadway repertoire from various Broadway Musicals. 

This would surely be an interesting evening and you would be among the first to witness the rise of young, new and inspiring stars. 

Everyone and anyone is welcome to come. However, the space is limited! So you'll have to book a spot quick! Free entrance to anyone who calls in at 03-61422601 or email their details (name, phone number and email address) to register.

For Bloggers, I manage to "wrestle" a deal for you. They will reserve 10 spots for bloggers to come with their guest (s). And if you are lucky, I might be able to throw in some exclusive goodies for you! 

You'll have to email me at nurliyana.yusnaidi@broadwayacademy.asia NOW before 5th July 2012. 

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Just some D-E-L-I-C-I-O-U-S difficult-to-memorize-ice-cream from New Zealand Natural

My coughing fit is at it's worst now. I haven't been sick like this for years. I'm coughing so hard I actually cried a bit. Coughed so hard that my head is painful thanks to the constant vibration it has to endure and coughed so hard that I started to vomit. Yeah, it's that bad. I feel sorry for the people around me who have to bear the noise coming from me.

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Being as sick as I am right now, reminded me of things I must abstain from if I want to get better.

Ice creams.

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Which in turn reminded of the last time I ate it - before I was this sick.

So, thanks to Melissa, I had the chance, for the first time ever to try the New Zealand Natural Ice Cream. Well, since I was not actually planning to go for any event, I went there without any camera. So, bear with me while I take you through this journey using pictures I manage to "steal" from other bloggers (especially jackieloi). hehehe

Some of the bloggers that show up that night - source

So, after quite a long time not showing for any blogger events, I somehow managed to steal some time to pop up by New Zealand Natural at The Curve. They were introducing a new flavor called "Pecan Praline Crunch" and previewing two desserts for a special limited time and we were lucky enough to have a taste for it!

The first one of its variety that was served to us was the Pecan Praline Crunch Cookie Sundae. 

It was D-E-L-I-C-I-O-U-S and not to mention filling! The soft cookie underneath is to die for! Especially for those who love their sweets. For those who don't really fancy sweets as much (such as me) you might want to share this with someone. It is too good to miss eventhough a bit too sweet to eat the whole portion alone.

The next one that was served to us is the Pecan Praline Crunch Affogato. (yes, the names are impossible to remember. Thank-god for press kits. lol)

This one is a breathe of fresh air to me from the sweetness of the first one. The same delicious ice cream, glazed with caramelized pecan nuts and chocolate syrup and a shot of espresso to accompany it. This is a dessert that will definitely be enjoyed by coffee lover. I'm not too much of a coffee person, but I learned to love this one quickly. The bitter sweet taste accompanied by that delicious crunchy bread gives you a craving for more!

After those two previews, we were allowed to have a taste of any of the many ice cream choices they have

Source - Xue Ren

Unfortunately for me, I had to run back to work, so I had to cut my tasting to a spoon each. I would say you have to try it to believe how good it is!


Pecan Praline Crunch Ice Cream, Pecan Praline Cookie Sundae and Pecan Praline Crunch Affogato will be available at New Zealand Natural outlets by 11th June 2012. For a limited time, the two variations will be on special sale price. Sundae at RM12.90 and RM13.90 for the Affogato. So head out there and give these two scrumptious desert a try! 

Photo Thanks to Michelle Leong

Bon Appetite!! 

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Oh~..,!?

Oh.

When you read that one word, comprises of 2 letters and a full-stop, how did you read it? How did you interpret it? Like every other word that symbolizes emotion in this word, a simple "oh" could have been interpreted in soooo many ways.

Generally, "oh" is understood as an affirmation of something. But the underlying meaning of the affirmation is something debatable.

Depending on the situation. context , the word could mean a lot of thing. So today I want to explore on this little word "oh".

Situation 1
A: Look at that!
B: What?
A: That!

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B: Oh...

Okay, are you looking at the ass or the skirt that screams "hey, i just met you, but this is my number, so call me maybe?" hehe

Anyway, in this case "oh" is probably stating "Oh, I see what you mean. Nice one!"
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The same conversation, may apply to the opposite with a different "oh"

Situation 2

A: Look at that!
B: What?
A: That!

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B: oh!

See? in this "oh" is saying "Damn shit! I see what you mean!"
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Then there's also the "oh" that indicates you remember something.

Situation 3: 
A: It's time!
B: What?
A: Don't tell me you forgot!! It's 

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B: Oh!

This "oh" usually sound excited and affirming something. Sometimes followed by "shit" "shoot" and other things that indicate they almost (or already) in trouble. XD
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There's also "oh" that comes along with a question mark (Oh?)
Like everything that comes with a question mark this "oh" indicates a question. But be careful. Not ALL "oh?" are meant to be answered...

Situation 4:
A: I have NEVER met a guy as coward as you!
B: oh?

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Yep it usually come with one eyebrow raised. Be wary. be VERY wary for these kind of "oh". Cause it would usually comes with an action that is total opposite than you expect. If I were you, I'd run. 
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In many cases "oh" can be correctly be interpreted with the symbols or words that comes before or after it.
But this one, is the most bewildering one.

Situation 5:
What they said:
A: I'm so sorry. I can't make it. I have to help pick up a friend at XY!

What I heard:
A: I can't make it today, I got something more important than you to do. 


B: oh. 

Yep, when I used the word "oh." To me, no matter what the other person is saying, it meant exactly the above. To me, they just have something else more important than me to pay attention to. 

Which is fine. I mean, I also sometimes have other important things rather than them. In these cases, I would've said "ic, it's ok", or "oh, alright, see you next time". And things like that.

But when I reply only those two letters and a full-stop. You can bet that I'm not okay with it at all. It would have meant I was really looking forward or hoping for it. It would have meant, my heart had just been sliced, and is bleeding a bit. That "oh." would mean

"I'm not okay with this"
"Ouch, that hurts!"
"U are breaking my heart"
"You just completely dashed my hopes"
"So I see, I'm not important enough for you, not the way you are to me."

I'm starting to sound a lot like the overly attached girlfriend. lol

Well, I usually return to normal in a while after that. And I would probably soon forget about that incident.
But still, it doesn't lessen the impact it has on me (lol spoken like a real drama queen.)

So anyway, these are just some of the "oh" that crossed my mind. I bet if I "squeeze" more from my brain, I'll get more. But I'm getting lazier to do so.

Tell me, what does "oh" meant for you?

Will write again when I feel like it XD
The Brat,

Drama Class for Adults

I've been browsing the net and I found out that there are not many Drama classes for adults are around.

I mean, why is it usually centered around kids and youth only? Adults can learn as well right?

So, I'm sharing this class I found with you guys. The place is called Broadway Academy Talent School (BATS). The center is located at Kota Damansara (near Giant). The place is quite easy to reach (as long as you know the way. lol)

Anyway, here's the poster of the class. Call them at 03-6142 2601 or email them at batsinfo@broadwayacademy.asia

Check em out! Oh yeah, Showcase for the class will be on 16th September 2012. It would be interesting to see what's the result for the class XD

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Lovey Dovey Tuesday: Foreveralone Post

I always taught that the "foreveralone" term is overrated. 

I mean, no one is truly, really forveralone right?
You have your family, your friends, your collegue or perhaps your neighbor, so you are not really alone.

Technically, you're not.

For me, the most terrible foreveralone feeling is not being alone physically, but being with so many people surrounding you, yet still feeling so lonely, isolated, detached, alone...

That feeling of hollowness inside and no matter what you do and how many people you gather around you, the feeling just go deeper that you can feel it making a hole in the pit of your stomach.

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It is especially worst when you look at the wedding/engagement pictures of your closest friends, when you see your friend going somewhere with their partners and having so much fun, when you are in a room with your friend who is on the phone with their significant other, when you called your friends up to meet but they are busy with other plans and every other person you can think of to call and have a chat with, already have someone else that they cherish... The hole just keeps on getting bigger that you feel like if you don't huddle and curl, you are going to be swallowed full by the hole. 

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Yep, that feeling comes and visit me once in a while when I have idle time. I have kept myself busy enough not to think of it too much. But with strings of wedding invitations coming from friends my age, and pictures of their cute children and their holiday with their significant other, how the heck am I going to be able not to think about it??

The worst part is that my dad has started pressuring me to get married. He was saying something like giving me another year and if I don't have anyone, he'll get one of my uncle to find one for me. And also saying "yes" to the first person that ask for my hand. I mean "seriously dad???"

I want to say "I'm not ready!"
I want to say "I want to focus on my career!"
I want to say "I don't have time to think about that!"

And other cock-bull-shit I can come out with.

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But the truth is just that I am a foreveralone girl. 
I don't have a boyfriend, not even a crush or a love interest right now.
Heck, I don't think anyone have set an eye on me at all and actually, vice-versa too.

What is it that I am looking for? 
What the hell is wrong with me? (Well, other than the obvious fact)

It's not like I have never had people interested in me. But somehow, I always manage to not be anything at all with them. Oh yes, I flirted and had flings aplenty, but none was ever serious. None was ever leading to anything.

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And I had god knows how many one sided crushes. None of the guys that I had ever taken fancy on had any fancy at all for me. I have no idea how many times I had been friend-zoned by these guys. But I guess, I learned to live with it shortly after. except for that one time. 

I had a humongous one-sided crush on someone who doesn't like me back - for 4 freaking years!! He stringed me along with no definite answer all those time. Deep down, I must've known he doesn't feel a thing for me, but I kept waiting anyway. And it took me another 3 years to completely get him out of my system which one whole year of it consisting of totally severing contact or connection with him. I lost not only my love, but also my best friend. Now, he is too much out of my system that I don't feel anything at all when it comes to him. Just plain politeness is all. I guess, no matter how much I try, I would never get that best friend I used to have again and the thing is, I never really tried.

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And it's not that there were never any advances made by guys for me. But none of them caught my interest, and some is just too plain creepy. Don't get me wrong, I did try to open up and try to get to know them. But that's just the problem. After getting to know them, I didn't and couldn't like them. Even-though I try to give them chances, I would always stop myself due to the bad taste of having to pretend. And it just would not be fair for both of us. Until that one guy, I decided to take a leap of faith on despite him being somewhere I can't possibly reach (overseas).

I used to have this sort-of a boyfriend. Well, that's what he said I can call him - my boyfriend. He expresses interest, and said "love" so many times I have lost count. Asking me to trust him, and that he would NEVER change his mind. Telling me that he would always love me. But he too disappeared on me. "Kapish" just like that. at first a month of no news, there were apologies and promises that it would not happen again, but then it goes to a couple of month, and again, and now, it has been half a year with no news, no calls, not even a text, or fb msg. NOTHING. Heck, we never even officially broke up. He just, well, disappeared, like he never existed - I guess, he never did. A guy so perfectly and seemingly compliments me (in terms of thoughts and ideals) someone who is blessed with good looks and good background, with a mind that I can respect and who just so happens totally adores me. I guess he can just be a result from my over-reactive imagination.

So I was left with an empty shell hanging from an invisible thread. The best part of it (or the worst) is that I'm actually looking at that shell hanging from my ceiling everyday, from the outside but feeling the hollowness of it inside me.

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Like I said, I  don't have a boyfriend, not even a crush or a love interest right now.
Heck, I don't think anyone have set an eye on me at all and actually, vice-versa too.

Maybe, taking up on my dad's offer is not such a bad idea after all.
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HECK NO!!

lol~ seriously, even if it kills me, I will not be so desperate for men.
Sure, it would be nice to have a significant other, but I have no plan of losing myself while looking for it. And I am quite sure I am doing well enough fending for my self.

And to my I-have-no-idea-if-you-are-still-my-boyfriend-or-not. I am declaring myself single and available now. If you read this and find that you still "love" me, well buddy, you would have a lot of work to do to try and win me back. (Aw shucks. I sound so vindictive. lols. Don't really care) Cause I promised myself this:

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And I'm planning to totally fulfill that promise. and oh yeah,

Seriously, I will. Try me.

Sincerely,
Bratty even when I'm eighty,

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Mind Blank~

Have you ever been in a situation when suddenly, your mind just went blank, zip, zap, kapush??? Just like that, our minds are completely void and we could not utter a coherence response if our life depended on it.

Well, that just happened to me just yesterday.

It was terrible coz it happen while I was performing as a guest for the SPARKS show choir concert held by Broadway Academy. When it comes to my turn to sing, I went up front and there I am, trying to, but totally unable to remember anything I was supposed to sing. I swear, all of my life, I had never had this kind of experience where I just could not think of ANYTHING. It lasted for about 10 seconds - that 10 seconds where I was suppose to sing. My mind just go "lalalalala" and that's exactly what I sang that time.

My mind would've been something like this~
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According to a website I landed on while looking for the "mind blank" situation. My situation would probably goes under the "social anxiety" category - eventhough I don't remember being anxious at all, but the symptoms match. According to this, when we get very anxious the way we think changes. Our conscious mind starts to switch off and we go into more of a reactive state rather than a reflective one. Our senses heighten, our muscles tense and we enter a total state of heightened readiness. Adrenaline engulfs us and we are in the fight or flight mode, which is wonderful if you are being attacked by a pack of junkyard dogs and have to react quickly but it is not so great when it comes to issuing verbal and intelligible responses. - Well it matches my situation cause, eventhough I don't remember my lyrics, I was still coherently dancing to it.

But as I sit down and try to analyze the day, the reason for that boils down to one thing - I was trying to do too much, while under the influence of medicine - and severe headache caused by cold. I took my meds the morning of the show and I swear, I was high on cloud for the most of the day. It almost like I finished the day floating.

So If by any chance any of my fellow performers, friends, boss, colleague, audiences are reading this, I humbly apologize for my performance yesterday. No excuse for my own mistake. I'll work very hard not to make the same mistakes again.

oh yeah, I also have no idea why am I writing this as well. Ah well~ I'll try to get some pictures of the performance and share with you guys soon. Till then, take care!

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