Lovey Dovey Tuesday: A Person To Keep

As you get to know someone, you will eventually learn a lot of their traits that you dislike, hate or annoys you. That's normal. But have you ever felt that even though you definitely hate those traits in that person, you never seem to be able to hate them or keep a distance from them? That, I believe is called accepting a person as they are. Come bad or wrong.

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Lets just say, you ever find this person, NEVER let them go. Despite all the things they hate about you, if a person still stay with you even though you do not bring them any apparent benefit then keep in mind that this person is someone worth for you to keep. Treat them well as they are the person who will always accept you as you are. They might be a friend, a lover, a family member. No matter who they are, always remember to appreciate them. Because they are the one who will always be there for you through thick and thin.

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But also be reminded, if you don't appreciate them, or keep mistreating them and take them for granted, eventually they will leave. And once they leave, you'll lose them forever because chances are, they'll never come back. 


Even if they are still somewhere you can reach, and somewhere you can see, you will feel it yourself, that they are just not there any more. The place where they usually stand will be a big void that feels so empty. The smile that is always warmly beaming at you will turn to a smile that is so polite, that it felt cold. 


Because we hurt the people we love the most and be hurt by the people we love the most. They had loved and accepted you the most as you are, so when they leave, it meant they had been hurt beyond any recovery. And because of that, no matter what you do after that, your relationship with that person will never return to the way it was. And so, you had lost them forever. 

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I have always tried to remember this, and now, I hope I would be able to remind some of you guys who read this, ALWAYS appreciate those you have around you. Because once you lose them, the word "if only I" would only be empty words.

How to do it? Simple. Just think, if they die tomorrow (touch wood, Nauzubillah) what would be the things you wish you had told them, and what are the things that you would wish to do for them or with them. Then, SAY IT, DO IT. Because you won't get another chance. If you wait for tomorrow, and tomorrow never come, you will regret it. I promise you, you will. I know, I had been there.

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Let's take a moment and appreciate those people who are worth for us to keep.

For my friends, family and all those people who had always stand by me through the best days and the worst days of my life, I thank you very much for being there. For those who had received the very worst from me and yet still loved me and accepted me for who I am, I'm sorry for those times I might have hurt you. And know that, from the bottom of my heart, I love you. And will always do. Thank You, for being you. :)

A small reminder to everyone from the Brat,

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Oh so Drama!

Hello everyone!

How have life been treating you? Me? At first I thought life had been tough. I was tested with all sorts of problems and heartaches to the point that I felt like crying helplessly - but the thing is, being in the situation I was, I could not even afford the luxury of crying.

But throughout that trying times, I thank Allah that He made me realize that I was blessed with great people surrounding me. My friends, my employers, my colleague, my family - having everyone around me that is so supportive and understanding, I was able to brave it through and face my day with smile and laughter. - Yup Brat had to pretend to grow up a bit. heheh~

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Malaysian Raya Mania

Malaysia is well known for its diverse culture and friendly as well as well-mannered people. However, these nice, friendly people gave way to a certain wave of manias that came when it comes to celebrating their ‘raya’. Each time there are festivities, no matter what celebration it is, may it be Hari Raya, Chinese New Year or Deepavali, Malaysian of all ethnicity and religion seemingly blends into one. All of them are ‘diagnosed’ as ‘raya mania’ positive.

#1 Everything-Must-be-New Mania 

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When it comes to raya, ‘everything-must-be-new’ mania seems to fall on every family home in the country. New curtains, new sofa set, new television, new furniture, new car, basically everything in view must be new – or at least look like new. Some goes to extreme of comparing with their neighbors who have the more expensive or the more beautiful or the more extravagant new things. A few days before raya this year, one of the top local radio station morning segment features the topic ‘lagak raya’ where the listeners would call in to brag about their coming raya preparation. Common sense would argue that no one would actually seriously call in to so, surprisingly a lot of them did. They talk about how many thousand ringgit they are going to spend on clothes alone, the ‘kuih raya’, and the renovation of house, buying new car and what not.

#2 Shopping Mania

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This ‘everything-must-be-new’ mania is accompanied or perhaps the reason for the shopping mania. Everywhere, so called ‘sales’ and reduction of prize were being held by the sellers. Malaysians of all races, religion, and age comes out and endure the traffic jam and the human ‘sardines’ situation to grab the opportunity to buy things at a seemingly ridiculous discount. No one really cares that some of the sellers took this opportunity to actually mark up their prizes. No one really cares that the ‘discounted’ prizes are actually the same as the actual cost. By the eve of raya, the prize of these items went even more ridiculously low, up to 90% discount of the initial prize they offer. This shows how high the prize had been marked up. Of course, by the time of raya eve, no one really cares anymore.

#3 Need-For-Speed Mania

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Another mania that could not be missed is the ‘need-for-speed’ mania that is extremely dangerous to the point of being fatal. Since festivities are one of the rare chance they actually manage to squeeze in time between their busy schedule to meet with their families and friends, all of them seems eager to get there quick. Thus, each year, during festivities, the accident statistics rise up and the awaited arrival becomes the heartbreaking departure. People seem to not care about road safety. When accidents occur, traffic jams are a definite sure thing that will follow. And thus many of them spend their raya in the car, stuck in traffic jams that take up hours of their time and cursing whoever caused the traffic jam.

#4 All-You-Can-Eat Mania

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One more mania that is no alien to the Malaysian culture is the all-you-can-eat mania. Open houses and parties and family dinners become an excuse for the people to eat whatever and in whatever amount they wish. After one house serve ‘Nasi daging,’ the next one served Laksa, and the next one serve Mee Udang and the list just keeps going on. Although their stomachs are full, they kept on putting in more for the sake of ‘tasting’ and for being ‘polite’. No wonder the amount of people admitted to hospitals for high pressure, diabetes and the like kept increasing.

These manias that befalls on Malaysian each ‘raya’ celebration is actually a disease that infected most if not all Malaysian whether they realize it or not. At an escalated level, it could be a pandemic, and create trouble. 

There is nothing wrong to indulge oneself with some luxury once in a while but do it discreetly while considering other people and other factors as well. There’s no point spending each and every dime now to have such short-time luxury, when the next two or three months or year you need to be content with instant noodles and sky juice for lunch just for the sake of footing the bills. There’s no point in trying to get there fast if in the end, you ended up not getting there at all. Remember, safety comes first.

The Malaysian ‘raya’ mania probably won’t die anytime soon. But that doesn’t mean, we can’t be amongst the one to start first. Perhaps, our attitude will affect our family, and friends, and soon, everyone will practice the same thing. That may very well be a distant and impossible dream, but one cannot dream enough. So it isn’t such a bad thing. We just do what we can albeit slowly. After all, despite the manias and perhaps because of these manias that each and every year we continue to enjoy our raya holidays. And perhaps because some of these related characteristics, we were able to be who we were, Malaysian, one nation, one country, one Malaysia.

Signing off,