Before going on to my topic today, I would like to reply to some comments that suggested me to "communicate" with my partner. I agree. Communication is the "key" towards any relationship. And I did try. The only problem is, I could not reach him. (His phone is un-contactable, he's not online, and I already know he don't read his emails.) So that's the reason for my little rant last week.
Anyway, following last week's post, (check it out here) one of my readers, (the awesomely funny cartoonist that is ERICLEEH) gave a good advice,
I agree it is true. One have to work for a relationship to be successful. We can't just let it be and take it for granted that things will happen for themselves. We must take some initiative as well.
But the question that popped up when I was reading the comment was, "How Much?"
How much does a person need to do in order for a relationship to work? Some might probably answer "As much as it takes"
but what if it's too much? Too much that it causes the other person to feel suffocate with it.
I mean, we might love the other person to death, and to keep the relationship alive, we kept on being the one trying. We call them to ask how they are, we text them, we care for their well being, we remember all the important dates and give them presents but in the end, it still fell through.
Then should I make it less? What if it's not enough? To avoid being a drag, a burden and to avoid annoying the other, we chain ourselves and stop ourselves from complaining too much, or asking too much and demanding too much. But then, we feel ourselves get sucked into a blackhole of loneliness and cannot seem to get out of it.
|When I come to, all I see is emptiness and loneliness~|
When I try, It might just be Too Much.and if I don't it might be Too Little. In the End, I still might lose it all.
In a relationship, COMMUNICATION is the utmost important expect, Communication, as we learned in school requires two-way participation. If only one side is working on it, while the other don't, then it won't make any difference. In the end, the one person who keeps trying will be left broken and battered, and walk away from the relationship with a heart full of holes.
Guys, girls, whomever you are, don't let your partner to be the only one who is trying. That is one lonely place to be stuck in. And don't strung them over when you don't love them the way they do you. Try to learn and love them back, and if you REALLY can't, then maybe, it's time for you to let them go.
I know, that you might think "since she/he wants me, she/he must work for it". But try to think, are you ok with them leaving you? and if you think "yes, it's okay" then think, are you ok with that happening to you? Cause you know, Karma's a b***h. It will come back to bite you.
What Goes Around Will DEFINITELY Comes around. Mark my words! (yes, it's a warning)
p/s: none of the picture above (except the one with NY|Photos Watermark) are mine.