Last week a couple of friends commented as such:
I had to agree. Here is a different set of problem that arises between different gender friendships. There's no telling when, where or how feelings might develop in either or both of the party involved. Now, let me stress again, this is a different issue than last week's "BF/GF, Did I Lost A Bestfriend".
If the feeling is mutual, and they managed to get the feeling across to each other, then both of them better know that they are the luckiest person on earth!
If it's not one or both of them are going to get hurt, one way of the other. There's no way around it.
One couple, who happens to be my best friends, are engaged and getting married by the end of this year after more than 5 years dating. Yes, they fought, and quarrel, but because of their friendship engraved long before that, despite everything, they understood each other, and more importantly, they trust each other. I am wishing them the happiest journey together, forever.
For me, I don't believe in suppressing feelings. Yes, I value our friendship, and yes if possible I do not wish for the friendship to end, but even if I do not tell him what I feel, I would still feel miserable. It's okay if he's single, I may be able to fix a smile and stay around him, but what happens when he found a girlfriend? Even worse, what if he's getting married?? I am positive, if I am that much in love with him, I would not be able to stick around and be his friend either way.
So yeah, I believe in taking chances. If I never try, who knows what I'll be missing. I refuse to live my life thinking "what if I had told him.." Due to that my heart must have taken enough beating to last a life time.
What kind of question is that? Of course it does!! But once you're over and done with it, once you've known the definite answer, you can finally get on with your life. For me, that's the best freedom EVER!
Well, yeah, I might have to severe connection with him to get over the feelings for a while, but now, we are back as friends. It IS a pity that I could not be friends with him the way I used to, but really, am I missing that much? Didn't I met a lot of other friends along the way that is just, if not more, as precious as he was?
|Precious friends~ (source)|
Before we can truly love another, first we must learn to love ourselves. If we hate the person that we are when we're with someone whom we think we love. Then, there must be something wrong with the picture. Take a step back and analyze because,